Tiny House
More About The National Coalition for Dialogue & Deliberation • Join Now!
Community News

Framing Better Conversations about Same-Sex Marriage

The folks at the Public Conversations Project – an NCDD organizational member – recently posted another installment of their “A Better Question” series aimed at helping folks have better conversations on controversial topics. This time, they look at same-sex marriage, and we’re happy to share their post. We encourage you to read the piece below or find the original here.


PCP new logoA Better Question: Same-Sex Marriage

In recent weeks, country has been tuned into the arguments around same-sex marriage posed to the Supreme Court.

The courts and legislatures around the country have a critical decision to make. But after that, regardless of the outcomes of their votes, we as the public have the job of living together.

Beyond the question of Constitution is the question of community. In the wake of monumental decisions like this – whether the issue is same-sex marriage, abortion, or immigration – we still have to figure out how to be together: working together, worshipping together, volunteering for community efforts in our cities and towns, sharing the playground and play-dates. The task at hand is undeniably, but not impossibly, difficult. We must acknowledge that there are very real, deeply felt differences in the way people approach the questions of marriage, family, sexual orientation and child-rearing, all of which come into play in this particular conversation. The higher the stakes, the more critical it is that we are able to speak openly about these issues, and able to hear each other.

Alongside the passionate advocacy for our positions must come an equal measure of our curiosity; and from that we must ask a better question.

Here are some questions that can frame more constructive conversations about same-sex marriage, and help communities navigate the inevitable aftermath of whatever decision may come from the courts. If you find yourself in conversation with someone who believes differently from you, you might lead with one of these:

  • Can you share an experience that has led you to your present understanding of and beliefs about same-sex marriage?
  • What are the core values or commitments that frame your views on same-sex marriage?
  • As you imagine making a commitment of marriage to another person, what are some of the fundamental values that guide you?
  • Have you ever had conversations about this issue with those whose opinions differ from yours? Has there been a time when you were able to express yourself well, listen well and communicate respectfully? What do you think made this possible?

For context, here are the other questions from our blog on vaccination:

  • What have you heard said about your views that leaves you feeling mischaracterized?
  • What do you want folks on the other side of this issue to most understand about your thinking and motivations?
  • Where, if at all, do you feel pulled in different directions, have mixed feelings, areas of less certainty, etc.?
  • How have you learned about those whose viewpoints differ from yours? What else might you want to find out about them?
  • What do you think the media, government or others could do to help or hurt this current situation?

What other questions would you add? Let us know and join the conversation.

You can find the original version of this Public Conversations Project at www.publicconversations.org/blog/better-question-same-sex-marriage#sthash.dg1iUgpn.dpuf.

Roshan Bliss on LinkedinRoshan Bliss on Twitter
Roshan Bliss
An inclusiveness trainer and group process facilitator, Roshan Bliss serves as NCDD's Youth Engagement Coordinator and Blog Curator. Combining his belief that decisions are better when everyone is involved with his passion for empowering young people, his work focuses on increasing the involvement of youth and students in public conversations.

  More Posts  

Post Your Comment!

 

-