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Group Decision Tip: Speak Your Truth and Let Go

In principle, an extremely valuable contribution I can make to a group decision is to discern my own truth and share it with the group. Deep inside, what do I really feel? This requires me to cut through the clutter of all that’s on my mind. Discerning my truth requires me to be in touch with my feelings, to be honest with myself.

Group Decision Tips IconSharing my truth requires courage. It might make me feel vulnerable. It might unleash other truths.

Protecting myself requires that I speak my truth and let go of the outcome. How others react to my truth is not my responsibility. Detachment is the secret to peace.

Practical Tip: Speak what’s on your heart rather than what’s on your mind. Don’t get mired in calculating the consequences. Speak your truth and let go of the outcome. One way to be sure you are speaking truth: say only what you feel. No one can argue with what you feel.

Once I was in a meeting and spoke my truth. Afterwards, I became terribly afraid of the consequences. I asked someone, “Did I say the right thing?” The response came without hesitation: “How could you not have?” they replied, “You spoke from your heart.”

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Group Decision Tips are written by NCDD member Craig Freshley, a long-time meeting facilitator and group process author. Craig invites NCDDers to view all his Tips at www.groupdecisiontips.com, and to share them freely for non-commercial purposes with proper credit to Craig.

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  1. Lori Britt says:

    Speaking from one’s heart is thoughtful responding where I consider speaking one’s mind is often “reacting” in the moment to something. This is why I think we can’t go wrong if we truly speak from our hearts.

  2. Speaking from one’s heart is very important.

    I am listening to Crucial conversations: Tools for talking when stakes are high by Kerry Patterson, Joseph Grenny, Ron McMillan, and Al Switzler. This book contains some very helpful language to use when speaking the truth (speaking from the heart).

  3. Thanks for your comments Lori and Kendra. Love how you both equate “truth” with “heart!”

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